It is a strange thing, this bond between people it can be forged out of many materials. Shared experience, pain or happenstance. These, the later are the more tenuous of bonds not anchored in something that gives it weight, substance. The latter are more easily cast aside due to mixed or missed expectations there are gaps in the weave like a poorly thatched roof it may shade you from the sun but not from the storm of life. The former really are forged, forged continuously, constantly being tested, being folded into and onto itself. Hammered and beaten and folded again maybe by time, situations the strain is what continues to make them stronger than they were before. These steel friendships get us through the worst of times. The people we call to guard us from ourselves from the parts of life we cannot control, have lost control of. They steady us in our dark hours and reflect us in the shining moments of accomplishment or good fortune. They are the buoys of our former selves parts of life that guide us when we have lost our way. Sometimes cold, stark reminders of how lost we really are without them. These friendships span decades, distance and disenchantments. Are they steel or are they silk?
Only after the trials and tribulations can it emerge. By recognizing the difference we are granted the ability to distinguish to recognize and to give appropriate measure to these friendships and only by them can we be set free from the forced niceties of being friendly to everyone, of hiding our disdain for whom you have no connection, acquaintance only. Subject to no duty of politeness but only passing indifference. I do not wish these people harm however I refuse to imbue the circumstantial relationships with the facade of friendship. I do not require justification for this because it is better to be up front rather than having to reject their friendly advances because there is nothing there.
**Disclaimer- I wrote this at 4 am and i have attempted to edit it somewhat. I do apologize for the run on sentences and probable poorly forged ideas.
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